Came Back Wrong · Track 28
For when you realize they loved having access to you more than they ever loved showing up for you.
Inside this song
Did they love me, or did they love everything I gave them?
Being generous with someone doesn’t give them unlimited access to you. You’re allowed to recognize when your love was being taken without being reciprocated and decide they don’t get access anymore.
“You didn’t love me, You just loved what I gave, And I hate that I stayed long enough, To watch myself fade”
For when you realize being needed, wanted, and given access was never the same thing as being chosen.
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You walked in like you owned it Every corner, every key turned my home into a habit Like it didn’t belong to me You’d reach for what was mine Like it was yours to take Never asked, never replaced Never fixed what you’d break
Everything I gave so freely Blurred together into one Like my body wasn’t sacred, like my giving was your fun You took without a question Like I owed you oxygen And I stayed there second guessing What I knew within
Pre-Chorus I tried to trust my body but you rewrote what was real Said I was overthinking what I knew I could feel
Chorus You used me like a shelter, like a place to land at night Like my love was just a resource you could drain and call it right You took my time, my body, my forgiveness, my peace And I kept on giving pieces hoping you’d finally see me But you didn’t love me You just loved what I gave And I hate that I stayed long enough To watch myself fade
Verse 2 You’d show up when you needed, disappear when I did too I was never your decision, just convenient to you Late night like a fallback when the world didn’t reply And I let you in my bed while you kept me out your life You took my softness like it was something I owed Took my patience like a place you could unload Took my healing, I was finally learning me And you turned it into something I couldn’t even believe
Pre-Chorus You never said it straight to me, just hid it in between And my body kept on screaming what you wouldn’t let me see
Chorus You used me like a shelter, like a place to land at night Like my love was just a resource you could drain and call it right You took my food, my energy, my spirit, my trust And I kept on pouring into someone empty of us You didn’t choose me You just knew I would stay And that’s the kind of damage That rewires your brain
Bridge I wasn’t crazy I wasn’t wrong I wasn’t asking you for too much all along You took and took and took from me Then told me I was hard to please But loving you was costing me My sanity And that’s the part I can’t undo, I almost stopped believing me for you
Final Chorus You used me like a shelter, like a body, like a home Like I was something temporary you could pick up when alone You took my youth, my safety, my ability to trust And I’m the one still healing from the weight of us But I see it clearer now I feel it in my bones I was never asking too much I was just asking the wrong one
Outro You don’t get my softness anymore You don’t get access like before What you took, I’m taking back You don’t get to love me like that
About the song
For when you realize they loved having access to you more than they ever loved showing up for you.
The story behind
"You Don't Get Access", is about realizing I wasn't loved the way I thought I was. For a long time, I confused being needed with being chosen. I kept believing that if I loved harder, gave more, stayed patient, and understood enough, eventually the relationship would become mutual. Instead, I slowly realized I had become someone's safe place without ever truly becoming their priority.
This song is about what it feels like when someone takes your kindness for granted. When they come to you for comfort, support, forgiveness, a place to land, a body to hold, and someone to carry their burdens, but disappear the moment you need the same in return. It's about the kind of relationship where you slowly stop trusting yourself because you're constantly told your needs are "too much," while yours are the only needs being ignored.
The hardest part wasn't just what was taken. It was how normal it became. By the time I realized how much of myself I'd been giving away, I barely recognized the person I'd become. This song is about reclaiming that person.
It's about learning that love shouldn't leave you feeling drained, confused, or disposable. It shouldn't make you question your reality or convince you that asking for reciprocity is asking for too much. The final chorus isn't about revenge. It's about finally understanding that I wasn't asking for more than anyone could give. I was simply asking the wrong person. And sometimes healing begins the moment you stop trying to convince someone to value what they were always willing to consume.
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